I love kids. I’m not lying when I say that. I love kids, especially when they are not mine. Don’t judge me until you’re done reading this article.
Some background about myself. I’m raised by an awesome set of parents. My parents only got divorced when I was in my late 20s which makes me an adult when it happened. I have an older brother and we come from a loving family. We are not dysfunctional. We attended school, have cushiony jobs and like any other human beings, have travelled far and wide. So what exactly went wrong?
Nothing. Just nothing.
If you would have asked me 5-6 years ago, if I love and want kids, I would easily say yes but at this point, I’m not that keen unless the person I’m attached to badly wants them. The reason is simple. It’s because I’m already in my 30s and I’m single. I mean realistically and in my very practical mode on, I will say that having kids are not viable at this point. Still can’t see why? I’ll summarise them below:
1) I’m 33.
2) So when will I get to know a guy? Let’s just say, now.
3) Possibly it will take me 1-2 years to know if the guy is the marrying kind. He proposes, we get married. Fast forward I’ll be 35-36?
4) Would I want to have a child at 36? Fine, for the sake of this argument, I’ll have 1.
5). Fast forward again. The child is 10 while I’m 47. He/She is 20 while I’m 57.
So you can see that the maths are just not on my side. And neither is the science. Have you read the studies which were done? Babies born to older moms have a higher chance of deformities and also risking the baby during labour. I’m not taking my chances.
I’m sad though because it’s something that I had to give up due to mere statistics and science. I would be lying if I say that I’m not even the littlest disappointed with this decision that I’ve forced myself to take on. Every woman will want to have kids and if they say they do not want them, listen to them; there may be a very valid reason behind it, like mine.
So yes, I do love kids, especially if they are not mine. It’s because if they were mine, I’m not sure how I would be able to leave them while they are so young or have them knowing that if they were born, they would not be perfect. Now, you can judge me.