I don’t know where or when it started, but sometime or another we decided a woman’s worth was dependent on her relationship status. We decided if a girl was hot, she must have a boyfriend.
If she didn’t, something was wrong with her. She was inadequate. She was undatable.
We were told “all the good ones have boyfriends” and all the rest are crazy. If she couldn’t find a man, it’s because she couldn’t keep one.
Did no one ever think maybe she just didn’t want one?
Did it ever occur to anyone that maybe it’s because she can’t find anyone worthy of her time? Did it ever cross anyone’s mind that the most beautiful women are too good to settle for just anyone?
I don’t know if anyone else has noticed, but it seems the most valuable, beautiful and secure women never have boyfriends. Because when they see couples, all they see is settling — something they will never do.
They won’t be in a relationship for the sake of it and most definitely won’t give in to societal pressures that say they’re better off with a man. They’re strong and secure enough to wait alone for the right one.
It’s the hot ones who don’t need validation through a relationship. It’s the women who are confident enough to know themselves outside of someone else.
And it’s always the hot ones who are judged much more harshly than anyone else.
Because they don’t trust guys’ intentions.
Most of the guys they meet are either assholes, douchebags or looking for something. They’ve had too many bad experiences to fully trust when they’re having a good one.
They’re always waiting for the bottom to drop or the true motives to reveal themselves. It’s hard to meet the people in front of you when you’re always looking behind you and over your shoulder.
Because everyone usually assumes they already have boyfriends.
When you see a hot guy, you’re less likely to go up to him because you assume he’s sleeping with some model or taken by someone. You’re less likely to go up to him because you figure there’s more to lose.
The same goes with hot women. If you assume she’s taken, why waste your time talking to her?
Because they’re as insecure as anyone else.
Even if they’re confident being single, they’re not completely immune to society’s constant judgments.
They know in their hearts they’re fine without a man, but when you hear someone ask you why you don’t have one every day, year after year, it can wear on you. It may not seem like it, but hot women don’t always feel hot.
Because people make unfair assumptions.
I’m not saying hot people have it harder; that’s just obnoxious. Complaining you have a rough life because people only want to have sex with you sounds like a bad Paris Hilton quote circa 2005.
But it is true that when people only want to have sex with you, they don’t think much about anything more with you. A lot of times, they assume if you’re hot, you’re dull or stupid.
It’s always a “shocking surprise” when a hot girl doesn’t talk in a baby voice or just want to talk about her favorite reality show.
Unfortunately, for all the intelligent and beautiful women out there, they’re stuck fighting that stigma.
Because most of the guys bold enough to talk to them are assholes.
It’s the age-old phenomenon none of us can explain. The only people with the confidence and game to hit on you are the people who shouldn’t be in the game at all.
It’s always the douchebags who try to pick up the hot single girls. And it’s the good guys who always have girlfriends or are too insecure or shy to make a move.
Like those bad middle school dances, all the wrong people are pairing up.
Because people are afraid of the unknown
Hot single women are a conundrum – people don’t know what to make of them. People think if they try to date a hot single woman, she will just end up breaking their hearts.
People think they must have crazy exes or are the crazy exes. People think they are stupid, shallow or judgmental.
People think because a hot woman is single, something must be wrong with her. Everyone’s forming hypotheses, but no one has the balls to test them out.
Because they’d rather not settle.
Unlike everyone around them, they know what they deserve and aren’t scared to stay true to it.
Beautiful single girls aren’t scared to go out alone or admit they don’t have anyone waiting for them at home.
They know being with someone wrong is just going to delay meeting that perfect someone. They’re not scared to wait it out; they’re hot enough to get through the cold streak.